She thought they were getting their second chance at love until he chose to walk away. The is an unfiltered truth about what it feels like to be broke and what it takes to heal yourself all on your own. Now, in a relationship, she finds hope every single day!
I believe transparency helps with transformation. I’m sharing my personal journey because I know I’m not alone. Ya’ll see the happy posts, but there was a time (actually this year) when I thought my pain would be permanent.
Once upon a time, my ex and I decided to circle the block after 20+ years. When he initially reached out to me, I was elated because I thought this was finally our time to make it work. We were younger back in the day, and I just don’t believe the relationship was valued, amongst other things.
We broke up. Emotions were high, but eventually, we moved on with our individual lives.
This second time around, although we were long-distance, you could not have told me we weren’t gonna be together forever. We had great conversations, we flew back and forth to spend time together, we communicated constantly, and I already knew his family. Then, slowly, things began to change, and he became distant towards me.
Two days before my birthday, I was headed to fly out to see him. But instead of being elated to see each other again, he broke up with me. I was devastated. I begged for him not to do this, but his mind was made up for his own personal reasons. Thus, I stayed home and cried until I had no more tears.
We don’t speak anymore. But I don’t hate him.
So when you see me celebrating weekly milestones with my new guy, it’s because I consider each day as a blessing. Daily, he’s restoring my faith in having a healthy relationship with a man.
Honestly, he met me broken. Yet, he’s patient with my healing journey, as well as I’m patient with his. Men experience hurt, too. But we’re committed to this process of getting to know each other.
So, if you’ve ever had your heart broken, I get it. I’m just one who’s sharing my story to encourage others. Take your time getting back out there, but don’t ever give up.