From early pregnancy signs to going through the tragic loss of her baby, a woman opens up about her heartbreaking miscarriage and offers comfort to all suffering mothers. With prayers, support, and trust in God’s plan, she states that the best is yet to come.
For each “We’re Pregnant!” post, there are countless numbers of women who NEVER shared their difficulties becoming pregnant or their miscarriages.
In sharing this, I aim to do my small part to foster a community where WE CAN SUPPORT EACH OTHER during trying times like these.
My miscarriage just happened. Up until it really did, I never thought it could happen to me.
April 6 – I experienced lower back pain and menstruation cramps. I’m quite conscious, so we decided to purchase two pregnancy tests. I tried one in the evening, and I can already see two lines. I finally said it to my spouse at this point, and he was ecstatic. 
April 9 – I made the decision to visit an OB to confirm my pregnancy (my urinalysis came back positive), and she determined that I am 4 weeks along. I had already told the doctor that I was experiencing painful cramps by that point, so she prescribed progesterone (pampakapit). She also suggested that I perform a transvaginal ultrasound two weeks later.
April 24 – I got my first ultrasound. By the size, I was determined to be 5 weeks and 4 days pregnant, but the baby wasn’t visible. I was told to recheck it in two weeks to ensure its viability.
April 25 – I visited my OB at AUF, and she prescribed progesterone and some supplements. Bed rest for a week or more is also advised.
May 9 – I got my second ultrasound. This time, I was bleeding from brown to dark red, and I was frightened. Although we can already see the baby at this point, the sonologist said that she is unable to see or hear a heartbeat. My heart was shattered. 
May 10 – I visited my OB once more, who suggested that I repeat the scan to look for a heartbeat after a week.
May 17 – My bleeding is still going on. I am aware that there is something wrong. I went right away to an ultrasound clinic. When I learned the results, my entire life fell apart. No heart activity is considered as a sign of embryonic demise.
I cried hard that day. 
May 18 – I had contractions which unbearably painful and the bleeding is nonstop. I had no idea that I was already in labor. I talked to my baby that we are all okay and that we are letting her/him go, knowing that she/he will return to us when the time is right. After that, blood clots started to leak out and I birthed my baby 
. I was brought to the ER where I was told I needed a D&C (raspa) to finish the incomplete miscarriage.
The mental damage was ofcourse bigger than any physical pain I’ve felt. 
I am comforted knowing that God grieved with me as I wept and cried for my baby. That He has a plan that is far greater than mine and that He works all things together for good.
In the midst of all of this, I also find a lot to be grateful for.
I can honestly say the following after going through this:
• Give yourself time to grieve. You should cry if you want to. Go ahead and hide in bed if you want to. Allow yourself some time, and handle it your way.
• Keep yourself occupied and focused on other activities, such as watching comedy movies/series, working out, taking numerous selfies, and tiktoks.
• Keep in mind that IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. I recall my OB explaining that chromosomal abnormalities are the primary cause of the majority of miscarriages in healthy women. Perhaps my body is rejecting it and doing what is best for me.
• Talk about it when you’re feeling up to it. It might even give you strength. It might benefit someone else who is going through it now or in the future. It will make you feel less alone.
• BELIEVE THAT GOD HAS A “GREAT PURPOSE” FOR LETTING THE BABY STOP DEVELOPING.
I discovered on this journey that my faith is stronger than it was before. The blessings that God will reveal to us are something we eagerly anticipate, and the BEST IS YET TO COME.
We are grateful for the prayers and the love from all of our close friends, coworkers, and families with whom we shared this path. 
“WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT, I, THE LORD, WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN.”
ISAIAH 60:22
No matter what you may be facing today, trust in God’s assurance that everything will fall into place in His perfect time.